Bridal Shower Etiquette

BRIDAL SHOWER FAQ’s:
Who can throw a bridal shower? Traditionally, bridal shower etiquette says that close family members of the bride (particularly mothers) are not supposed to throw the shower; the host is usually a close friend, bridesmaid, or other family member.

When should a bridal shower be held? Ideally, the bridal shower is held 1-2 months before the wedding, but there is nothing wrong with it being held earlier, provided that it’s convenient for the bride.

Who should be invited to the bridal shower? The mother-of-the-bride and mother-of-the-groom should always be invited to the shower, as well as stepmothers on both sides. Sisters of the bride and groom are generally invited to every bridal shower, but have the option of choosing to attend just one. Keep in mind that people who are not invited to the wedding should not be invited to the bridal shower. Other than that, the bride and host should work together to come up with the guest list. Numbers should be kept within the host’s budget. “Couples showers” are becoming more popular, but remember that this usually doubles the guest list.

Where should the bridal shower be held? There really is no rule on this one, but one exception I would make is that you should never ask guests to pay for their own meal at a shower. So, no matter what the bride prefers, do not plan to have the shower at a restaurant if it is not going to fit within your budget.

Bridal shower games: are they necessary? Games are not required as part of a bridal shower, but they often help to “break the ice” when the guests may not know each other. If games are not going to be played, it’s a good idea to begin the shower with introductions.

Thank you notes: should I send them? Sending a thank you note to each person you receive a gift from is an absolute must. If several people contribute towards one gift, you should write each person a thank you note. Send the notes within a couple of weeks of the shower, and don't forget an extra special thank you (even a small gift) for the host.